I am really finding my voice these days.
what I mean by that is coming to a place finally where I feel it's ok to say NO.
It is mostly around little things at work. Knowing when I don't want to take on an extra project or client and not feeling like I'm a bad employee if I say NO.
Saying NO to friends when they want to go out and even though I haven't seen them in a while, knowing I don't have the energy or desire to go.
I've been ok saying no to family for a while now but work, most especially is a place where NO is hard for me.
I'm taking care of myself in other ways too. Spending money when I want to and instead of feeling guilty, reminding myself I am deserving of a treat. Taking the time to do things like accupuncture or massage- taking a day off, like yesterday, to do absolutely nothing but hang out and watch the bees or sit in the sun/shade reading magazines.
What are some ways you take care of yourself?
What are some things that are hard for you in terms of taking care of yourself.
My mom is a great lady but I really interpreted saying no (especially around work/authority) as taking a risk of losing face/job. As well being a "lady of leisure" was viewed as being disgustingly luxurious and laziness was frowned upon and seen as selfish. I've talked to my mom about it and I know it came out of her being raised during the depression. It's still hard to beat the imprint it left though.
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- Our voice against our own inner critics